“Every couple needs to argue now and then. Just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships, the ones that matter, are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.” ~ Nicholas Sparks
We will unpack five reasons you don’t feel like having sex below. They are as follows:
- Sleep Deprivation
- Negative Human Emotions (Depression, Shame, Anxiety, Low Self-Esteem)
- You Are Not Exercising Enough
- You Are Having Too Much Sugar or Alcohol
5 Reasons You Don’t Feel Like Having Sex
1. Sleep Deprivation
According to Sleep Centers, “Male sexual arousal is connected to other parts of the body including the brain, nerves, and blood cells. As with sleep deprivation, lowered sexual arousal may have psychosomatic origins. Sexual dysfunction and poor sleep creates stress, which can result in less sexual arousal, worse sleep, and even greater stress.”
When we aren’t getting proper sleep, we are more susceptible to feelings of fatigue, tiredness, and stress. These, naturally, can lead to a reduction in sex drive when we are not feeling at our peak physically, mentally, or emotionally.
When we are stressed, there is a shift and change in our cortisol levels and testosterone.
The more stressed we are, the greater likelihood we have of having a reduction in our sex drive.
Stress affects us on all fronts. This is due to our mind being focused on what we are stressed about and seeking to resolve the stressors in our lives.
3. Negative Human Emotions (Depression, Shame, Anxiety, Low Self-Esteem)
Negative human emotions can wreak havoc on our desire to have sex.
Those with shame and low self-esteem will have difficulty desiring sex. They will see themselves as undeserving or not seeing themselves as desirable.
Those who are depressed may be so down with life, and where they are, that little excites them.
Anxiety can also make one nervous, stressed, and afraid to connect with someone they love. This anxiousness can be due to a variety of reasons. Whatever the case, it can be highly debilitating.
4. You Are Not Exercising Enough
According to UCLA Health,
“Exercise is unequivocally good for men’s libido. Compared with sedentary individuals, men who exercise regularly have higher testosterone levels, greater libido and greater fertility. But extreme exercise is not without risks. In women, chronic endurance exercise training can lead to disruption of the hormonal axis, which can affect their menstrual cycle and fertility. It can similarly disrupt men’s hormonal axis, leading to testosterone levels at the lower end of normal.”
Exercising the appropriate amount can lead to increased sex drive, whereas little to no exercise can hinder one’s desire to have sex.
5. You Are Having Too Much Alcohol or Sugar
Sugar lowers testosterone and negatively impacts our sex drive.
Increased sugar can also hinder hormonal balance and reduce our sexual desires.
According to DrinkAware, “For men, alcohol depresses the central nervous system which means it can make it difficult for some men to get, and keep, an erection. Drinking may also prevent or delay orgasm…Like men, women may also find it more difficult to have an orgasm, or find they have orgasms that are less intense after drinking alcohol.”
BlueHeart also notes, “When you first drink alcohol, your testosterone and dopamine levels temporarily rise. This is why some people think that alcohol can actually help with boosting sex drives. However, this increase doesn’t last for long. In fact, alcohol can decrease levels of dopamine and testosterone and this will leave you with a lower libido overall.”
Next Steps to Increasing Libido and Sex Drive
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